Ready to permanently close the door on a broken relationship?

It’s hard for all concerned when a relationship ends. There are tears, anger, sadness, regret and perhaps depression and ill health.

We are told that time is a healer which, of course, it is to some extent. However, time doesn’t always prove to be the solution. The tears may have dried up and the anger dissipated. But the sadness may still be there and that person could be in our thoughts every single day.

When we have a relationship with another person, which may be platonic or sexual, and we commit ourselves to that relationship we are building cords of energy between us and them. These cords will vary in their thickness and strength depending on the level of emotion involved. They connect us energetically.

So, this person may move out, meet somebody else and start a new life but, just because they are not physically present, it does not mean that all connections are severed.

The situation becomes even harder if the two of you are compelled to keep in touch. You may have a child together, work for the same company or just have the same friends.

And even if they move out of your life completely you can still choose to think about them.

And that’s the real cause of the problem about moving on because by thinking about them we give our energy to them and, in doing so we continue to strengthen those cords.

The answer is not to give yourself a good talking to and ‘snap out of it’ because it simply won’t work. If you’re reading this you’ve probably already tried that anyway. However, it is the first part of the solution.

Next you need to get into your energetic body and cut those cords. Here’s how:

Make a conscious decision that you do want to let this person go from your life, that you do want to move and live for you rather than spending all your energy on them.
Set aside a time that you can be quiet and undisturbed. Make sure you’re comfortable and warm. Ideally sit in a straight backed chair with your feet on the floor.
Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth.
Imagine there are strong roots growing from your feet down into the earth. They thicken and twist as they wind themselves down. This grounds you and gives you a feeling of stability and connection with the physical plane.
Now imagine a beam of soft light coming down from the heavens and connected with the top of your head. The light can be whatever colour you want or that appears spontaneously. This connects you to the heavens so you are now between heaven and earth, in balance with both your spiritual and physical aspects.
This is an ideal physical state for any meditation but this one is all about finding those cords and cutting them.
Picture the person that you want to break free from. Hear them talk to you and remember what you liked about them (this is no time for anger to rear its head).
Whilst you are doing this pay attention to your body. Where are you feeling the hurt? Where are you feeling the sadness? This will be where your cords connect to you.
Now see those cords coming from you and reaching out and connecting to the other person. Notice how many there are and how thick they are. This will show you the depth of the emotional bond between you. Notice also what colours they are: bright and happy or dark and hurtful?
When you are ready imagine a laser beam of light coming from one of your fingers. Point it at the cords and see them severed. As they are released they shrivel up and fall away from you.
Now widen the beam of light and see it coming from the palm of your hand. Place your palm over the severed ends. Let the light heal the area.
Whilst this person is still there tell them truthfully that you love them, that you forgive them and that you let them go.
This is why Step 1 is important. If you don’t want to forgive and you don’t want to let them go you’ll just carry on building more cords.
Now focus again on the roots going down into the ground and the light coming into the top of your head. Feel centred, grounded and aligned.
When you are ready open your eyes. Get up and walk around, go outside for some air or have something to eat to really ground yourself and bring you back into the present.

You may need to carry out this exercise for a few days depending on how strong the links are between you. It could be too much, too soon to do all at once.

Also, don’t be surprised if this person contacts you after you have done this. They will feel the change and possibly make be trying to create cords of their own to you.

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Jackie Notman is an Intuitive Advisor, Coach & Energy Reader. This article is from The Psychic Reader - an online resource for health, wealth, career and relationship issues.

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